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Dividing responsibilities not only eases your leadership burden, it helps your group members grow
First Corinthians 12:7
says that God gives every believer spiritual gifts for the common good
of the body. But if your small group is like most, it's led by just one
person—you! Not that you're probably complaining, but that's a huge
burden. Aside from that, it's also keeping everyone else from growing
in their gifts.
The load usually falls on one person because many
leaders feel like the only way to get things done is to do it
themselves. And it doesn't occur to group members to volunteer because
they don't know that taking on a responsibility is part of being a full
member of God's family. This contributes to group members thinking they
don't have any spiritual gifts because they've never had a chance to
experiment.
So tactically, how do you motivate people to step up to the plate and discover their gifts in the process?
1. Read through Acts 2
as a group and talk about that community's demonstration of all five
purposes of the church.
Just as that community brought the purposes into their homes—not just
into the temple—so should all five purposes be going on in your group.
And this requires group "load sharing."
2. Deal with shared ownership in a developmental
way. Take into account people's spiritual age. If they're seekers—not
even sure if they believe in Christ—don't ask them to do anything. Just
welcome them in the group. If they're new believers, give them a small
role. Don't overwhelm them. If you've got mature believers, you can
dump the truck on them. They can certainly handle it.
Also take into account your small group stage. If
your group is brand new, give people baby-step responsibilities.
Perhaps you can have a potluck and let everyone bring something. The
balance here is that you don't want people afraid to show up next week
because they feel overwhelmed with responsibility. If your group has
been together for a while, you can nudge people a little more to take
on something bigger. A good first step would be to pass out a sign-up
sheet for helping with the group's worship time.
3. Don't expect people to go it alone. Jesus sent
the disciples out in pairs. You can ask a couple of people to team up
to host a social evening for your group. Or ask two people to share the
job of coordinating the prayer list. Teaming up makes it much less
scary for people.
The best time to ask people to take on a role is
right after a great group meeting. Nine out of ten will say yes to a
responsibility if you ask them then. Ask them to do it for the next
three weeks—not forever. Or ask people to coordinate one project. If
you ask members for help and the room goes quiet, don't just drop it.
Follow up with people after the meeting.
If you're nervous to ask for help, remember the Holy Spirit will be right there with you every step of the way.
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